One thing I do know from the a lifetime of being an intuitive, both personally and professionally is that nothing in life is accidental. Everything one experiences is experienced at the right time, and has within it the seed of resolution to whatever challenge one is faced with. Every set-back is actually an opportunity to engage with yourself and the world around you in a constructive and creative way, despite the difficulty with which circumstances may present themselves. If you engage willingly and consciously with your experiences by following your internal impulses, going on the premise that what you are experiencing is important to your personal growth and development, at all levels, you will discover that any difficulties will begin to loosen and relax, and instead give way to new possibilities and opportunities. In fact it is human nature to want to explore and innovate, to create something from nothing, simply because we are motivated by a powerful desire to be happy.
This does not mean however, that you will not experience discomfort as you make the necessary adjustments in allowing for a more positive frame of mind, as often we might harbour beliefs that do not serve us very well, but through prolonged habit we find difficult to discard due to their familiarity and false comfort. So the degree of adjustment necessary depends very much upon the belief expectations that you have about yourself and the world around you, and the conviction with which you hold on to them. All beliefs begin as an internal dialogue which as a thought process is a set of actions that then guide your physical actions and your experiences in life. Put simply, those who think in a certain way will only have experiences that validate their particular beliefs and expectations. Equally you will find that there are many experiences you haven’t had, and will not have because they don’t match your expectations. Of all the people in the world, we only ever communicate with a mere fraction of them, and that we might have anything in common with the people we do meet is by no means coincidental. In fact the odds of meeting someone who is similar to you in the course of your life, following the popular scientific line of enquiry should be nigh on impossible, given the quantity of people you might meet in a life-time. Yet it happens, frequently.
Having faith in a positive outcome when navigating through your experiences and changing your beliefs is important, and I’m not referring here to some esoteric notion of suspended belief, but rather the same kind of faith that is required in any ordinary, everyday expectation that you may have. You have faith that the sun will rise the next day because that is what you expect. In the same way, you can focus on a positive outcome by adapting your expectations to allow for the kind of thinking and behaviour that will automatically follow and thus lead you to experiencing it directly.
Your beliefs follow your expectations, so the reality that you experience around you is a direct reflection, or projection of your beliefs and expectations. You can demonstrate this simply enough by looking around you and seeing what or whom you see as direct projections, or extensions of yourself. Ask yourself what you think about what you see and how you relate yourself to that. Notice the beliefs that you reinforce or create as you make your assessment, then ask yourself if it is a belief that you feel is beneficial to you. Would you want others to share the same beliefs knowing that all and who of what you see is actually a projected form of you?
It is an exercise in developing a compassionate connection with your personal reality, internally and externally, so that your decisions and actions are formulated by a desire to experience value and quality, rather than separation and animosity.
In more abstract terms you will probably notice that your internal mood is reflected in your environment, in fact you may have difficulty separating the two, saying to yourself “well, I feel bad because I don’t like where I am”. If you change that statement to, “I don’t like where I am because I feel bad, and where I am looks unappealing because I believe that it causes me to feel bad”, then the choice to alter your perception becomes yours, no longer an affectee of your circumstances.
There are often wider influences in play in any supposedly chance experience. In conventional terms posited by Western cultures, time is linear, life is subject to unquantifiable random factors, so therefore when you enter into a space you react to its pre-existence based on the way you interpret sense-data. You thus formulate an opinion about what you experience based on that. If instead you work on the premise that nothing is random or coincidental, and that what you see and experience external to you is actually a reflection or projection of you as based upon your internal beliefs and expectations, then you give yourself the opportunity to change how and what you perceive, and in so doing you will begin to notice the way in which your circumstances will shift and alter to match what you expect to see and experience. You experience directly whatever it is you focus on, you will always create what you expect to create.
This is not as incredulous as it sounds, it is a simple fact of life that is continually overlooked, though not unobservable, because of the cultural beliefs that many of us adhere to and regard as immutable knowledge, or fact. You always have a choice to think differently, and to think in terms that are more beneficial to you and your personal development. Even if you cannot stretch your beliefs to entertain the notion that all that you see and experience is your creation at some level, then ask yourself what you would rather believe?
“I am a victim of circumstance and thus powerless to change anything.”
or…
“I am able to create value, quality and fulfilment in my life, and how I do that is up to me. My experience will follow my expectations, so I will envision the most enjoyable life I can, full of health, vitality and love.”
The “Yes but” you will probably hear from certain corners of your mind when you read the second statement is an indicator of where you need to readjust your internal dialogue, and shift it to a more positive statement. None of us is beholden to anything or anyone, just by choosing to think differently we can change everything, quite literally.
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I can’t deny that I’m some days feel like a victim – when it’s about my health – but it’s what it’s and it’s just to go on with life and do the best of it. I know you are the same way, but to sit and feel sorry for me every woken minute – life is too short for that. There is places to see and people to meet – and there is a blog to look after. *smile You’re so right in what you’r saying here.
Thank you Viveka for taking the time to read. Life is simple, but often I think we overcomplicate it because we succumb to the belief that we are not in control of our lives and our destinies. It’s what we are told so we believe it, but it doesn’t mean that thinking that way serves us at all well. We each have more power and control than we imagine, actually by paying attention to our imaginations we get a glimpse of how much power we actually have. Anything is possible if we believe that it is.
Enjoy the rest of your Monday lovely friend! 🙂
… I totally agree with you. I’m a true believer in that we over-complicate our lives, mostly with material things and we put pressure on ourselves through them. This with what ever we buy is out of date after 6 months and something more exciting is out there to buy. How mad isn’t that. We never use things until the break anymore. Look at Apple, new phones and pads … every year. And we just buy the whole idea and we just need to have the latest. That is when we lose focus on what is important and what life is all about.
On the other hand about the power … I think we first of all need common sense and use it – common sense isn’t anything we are born with – that is what life gives us, but still so many of us … don’t use it.
Have a nice evening now. *smile
I happen to believe that we are all born with innate common sense, but we are taught not to use it in favour of scientific belief. Thing is, we all trust our intuition all of the time, otherwise we would not experience life at all 😉
Life doesn’t happen to us, it happens because of us!
You have a good evening too.
I don’t totally agree with you about life .. because I look at all the people that get all those terrible sickness – not only cancer, there is worst illness. That doesn’t happen because of us – that is just handed on to us .. and get on with it.
GoodMorning I have to say then. *smile – hope you will get some sunshine.
“Everything one experiences is experienced at the right time”
I agree with Viveka. This is not true although it is true that we have the power to change the way we think about whatever life throws at us. Sometimes we do have an influence on what happens to us such as when we abuse our bodies and fall sick as a consequence, but often we are forced to confront what are simply random acts of an indifferent universe.
Either we are beholden to a repetition of acrimonious fate, or we are subject to random acts of indifference Malcolm, surely both cannot be true?
If I didn’t know better, I might think you just enjoy arguing with me 😉
Ah, you’ve discovered my little secret. However, I think if you will look again at my comment from the other day, which you are clearly referring to, (I can’t because you have so many blogs that I lost track of where it is) you will see that I did not state we are “beholden to a repetition of acrimonious fate”. Human nature is constant which leads to a certain predictability in our actions and the actions of others. However, we do have an unlimited ability to change the way we think about ourselves and others. It is not easy but we can do it.
Somethings, even apparently unrelated things that happen to us, can reasonably be said to be the result of our behavior, so I agree with you that “your internal mood is reflected in your environment”, at least to some extent. But this is a far cry from saying “Everything is experienced at the right time” or “nothing is random or coincidental”. Life is indeed “subject to unquantifiable random factors”, and to believe otherwise is to condemn countless millions to believe that their misfortunes are somehow their fault, that they in some way contributed to them.
Everybody does indeed contribute to what happens to them in very real terms. I think in the academic world they call such things externalities.
We say that life is a composite of random acts simply because there is much that is still unknown about our existence and the way in which our reality functions, and the statement justifies our lack of knowledge. It is an admission of ignorance, not a statement of fact.
From my years of repeated personal experiences to the contrary the thought of anything being random or coincidental is amusing. Not that my intent is to mock your beliefs or those of others, I am simply sharing my own valid knowledge and experience because it gives me pleasure to do so. I have no drum to beat, and I’m really not so concerned if others do not approve of what I write, I can only be responsible for my own actions, and I expect no less from my readers.
Thanks for this. I can see value in what you are saying, and in particular, in shifting our internal dialogues. The problem is that once you’ve become rooted in negativity, it’s almost impossible to know how to do that. It’s like being mired in quicksand. I can know the way out, and yet find it impossible to move in that direction without assistance.
I’ve had some experiences that I feel happened not at the right time, but precisely at the wrong time. I’m having one now, in fact. So, I can’t completely buy into the notion of “everything happens for a reason” or “everything happens when it needs to happen.” However, I am open to the notion that even when the wrong thing happens at the wrong time (say, for instance, because there are those who try very hard to obstruct your path) perhaps we can learn to adapt such that it’s no longer an obstruction. Maybe for the rare, advanced few, we can even turn the adversity into a strength somehow.
For most of us, and those who are struggling the quicksand, some experiences feel like one more anchor pulling at our feet. The key is to learn to kick them off, I think.
You are right, learning to kick them off is exactly what is needed. Thank you for your valuable feedback 🙂
I love you with everything I’ve got, sweets.
Thank you, and ze feeling is moochal (I wonder how many times I can get away with that?) 😉
I know how many times you’ll try it. 🙂
LOL!
Bill, I am not flirting with Maria just teasing her intellectually which is my wont in life. Maria, I enjoy our conversations because you do see things so differently from me and I learn a great deal from your perspective even if I rationally disagree with you. As an aside, economists use the term ‘externalities’ to refer to costs born by other parties, for example a factory polluting the air and imposing costs on those of us who breathe it. It’s stretching this definition beyond recognition to believe that it applies to the relationship between my actions and anything that happens to me in life. Thank you for being patient with me.
We have obviously reached an impasse with this discussion Malcolm. I’m not quite sure what your motives were in pursuing this line of enquiry. I respect your views, but I also respect my own. The only limitation here is in your reluctance to understand my perspective, which in reality is neither here nor there, and none of my business. I appreciate your willingness to engage me in debate.