Death is a great leveler. Actually, let me rephrase that: fear of life is a great leveler. Death merely represents a transition from one state to another, and is no more dramatic than closing your eyes to go to sleep. Up until that point you are still very much alive, as you are after it. I have written about this many times here, so those of you who read my work will know what my views are regarding the issue of life after life. Those of you who are new to my blog and The Daily Channel, I would urge you to read my posts under the headings: “The Daily Channel” and “Metaphysics”.
When we talk about death, what we are really expressing is our fear of pain, loss, rejection, limitation, restriction, aggression, desperation. However, all of these fears are states of mind that we choose to focus upon, and that reflect the expectations of the cultures that we live in and abide by. All of them are learnt behaviours, and none of them is immutable. It isn’t to say that the effect of our fears is not tangible and very real for many of us, but that of its very nature it stems from a concept of accepted limitation, and by that I mean a limitation that we personally accept and subscribe to based on what we believe is ‘right’ and appropriate according to our own personal circumstances.
In expressing our fears we are really telling ourselves and others at that particular moment:
“I don’t know how.”
And that’s ok. But as you may know I take a very pragmatic view of such limited thinking, because as humans we are all imbued with an imagination that can think beyond any circumstance, and where limitation is just an inhibitor to progress, or in social terms, a way of defining concepts and thus enacting/enforcing measures of control.
I’m raising this issue now in response to comments that I have received recently with regard to certain posts, and due to my own personal circumstances that have urged me to ask particular questions. I believe that it is important to think beyond the restrictions that we often place upon ourselves and those around us due to an inability or blank refusal sometimes to take responsibility for our thought processes, and thus think differently. The one way in which we are not restricted is in our ability to make choices no matter how difficult our circumstances may seem to be.
A concentration on what we fear only serves to perpetuate what we fear. There is no positive outcome to that. If I insist on accepting a fear as a delimiting factor in my life, then I cannot hope to progress beyond it and find a resolution wherein I am of a more positive state of mind.This is often further perpetuated by a notion of “It’s out of my control”.
Things are only out of your control if that is what you choose to believe.
Yes but what exactly?
Until you are prepared to think beyond your current limitations, no matter what they may be, with the use of your imagination no less, then you will be beholden to them and you will limit your potential to experience something different and perhaps better.
It is human nature to be spontaneous and innovative and to generate new experiences that bring us pleasure and allow us to express ourselves creatively in a way that is healthy for us and those around us. When that impetus is stifled then we become unhappy, we withdraw, and become unresponsive to the world around us. We develop fears, we fall ill, and life seems anything but positive and exciting. Yet the at the very root is our own voice reinforcing that state of mind:
“I don’t know how.”
What I advocate through my writing and the work I do, not to mention a lifetime of direct personal experience is that our own personal circumstances are designed to enable us to express ourselves in the best, most creative way possible, and that part of the challenge is to find a resolution to that which limits us, to be able to turn a seemingly negative situation into a positive experience that in turn creates new opportunities and ways of exploring and experiencing life in a more joyous, and fulfilling way.
For the past forty years I have lived with a condition that frequently causes me extreme physical pain, limits my mobility, and at times my ability to function coherently.A condition that only in recent years I have discovered may end my life abruptly and without warning according to current medical science. You can imagine then, that at times my ability to stay positive and focussed is tested to the limit.
You will often find me within the privacy of my thoughts saying my goodbyes, and preparing myself for what happens next as my symptoms escalate and warn me of impending danger. But I remember at such moments that nothing in life or death is insurmountable, that it is my choice to envision myself in perfect health, physically and emotionally, and that there is a lot more living that I wish to do without the encumbrance of negative thinking.
I feel given my unique perspective that it behooves me to take a few risks and challenge my own beliefs including that of others in light of espousing a more creative, positive frame of mind. I feel I would be doing myself a disservice if I didn’t ask pertinent questions as I have the inclination and the opportunity. As I believe that I create my own reality, then I have to ask myself why I have created my current circumstances? What purpose do they serve? I owe it to myself to listen carefully to the internal and external responses that I get.
The one thing that all lines of personal inquiry seem to boil down to no matter which perspective you come from is that focussing on quality of life is extremely important in maintaining good physical, mental, and emotional health. In fact the decision to think positively is the most important thing you will ever do. It is a question of life over death, health over dis-ease, and happiness over fear. It is simple to change those core assumptions to,
“I trust that I know how.”
without questioning your integrity.
Honestly,what do you have to loose by doing so?
Reinforce these statements enough and they will become habit, and you might find that they don’t seem so difficult. You will most certainly begin to see that your experiences have changed to match them. Once again, your beliefs follow your expectations. Honour who you are and cut yourself some slack. You may not know how to change everything right now, but your every breath deserves willingness to try. Why limit yourself if you simply don’t have to, unless you’re stubborn of course? 😉